Northern Stars Attachment
We provide top notch respite care for exhausted parents who are raising challenging children. We do this by working closely with the parents to develop a specific plan which will address the behaviors that caused the child to be placed in respite. The types of respite care that we provide include therapeutic respite, therapeutic motivational respite, therapeutic parenting respite or even "parents night out" respite.
When parents are unable to stay at home with their child every day, such as a working single parent, a properly administered day care setting can be a viable substitute. The day care provider becomes an integral part of the family, giving to the child the same level and quality of bonding that the mother would provide if she were able to stay home and do the nurturing herself.
Babysitting as Respite
Babysitting, or childsitting, is a form of respite that parents use when they want to participate in an activity which is not appropriate for the child, such as a doctor's appointment or "adults only" activities. This type of care is most appropriate for a child who has a healthy relationship with his/her parents and exhibits healthy behaviors and boundaries.
Therapeutic Respite and Therapeutic Motivational Respite - both must last no longer than ten days!
A child who has suffered trauma during the first three years of life is at high risk of attachment disorder. The symptoms include:
- chronic crazy lying
- superficially charming
- lack of cause and effect thinking
- not affectionate with mom
- lack of conscience
- extreme control problems
- cruelty to animals
- persistent nonsense questions and chatter
- inappropriately demanding and clingy
- triangulation of adults
Attachment disordered children four years old and older should spend one afternoon or evening each week and one long weekend each month in therapeutic respite until they are securely attached. Therapeutic respite is an opportunity for exhausted parents to recharge and nurture their relationship with each other. Date nights, shared hobbies and sightseeing are great ways to refuel drained parents. The goal of therapeutic respite is for the parents to maintain a strong, healthy bond to each other so that together they will be able to nurture and care for their challenging child.
Therapeutic motivational respite is designed to help a child who is violent, runs away from home, pushes mom's and dad's love away, etc. Therapeutic motivational respite is a safe place for the child to practice shifting from fight, flight or freeze to logic and the goal is that the child will turn his/her life around and reach out for his/her parents! It is not punishment nor is it negative. It is intentionally bland for the express purpose of causing the child to want to bond with mom and dad. Mom and dad are the source of all things fun and exciting!
a few thoughts on Therapeutic parenting respite
longer than ten days
the provider works closely with the parents and a licensed therapist to develop a plan that will best serve the needs of the family as a whole
the person who provides this type of respite is the therapeutic parent until the child returns home